I was a single mum and fed up with dating. I wanted to find a husband, so I set myself a new years goal to get my Mr. Right.  I joined a dating website with a strategy to find the perfect man and I met my husband 6 weeks later!  Today we are happily married and so i’m happy to share my dating do’s and don’ts, which lead me to find my Mr perfect!

My strategy. 

1. 1. First I invested in myself. Had my hair done. Bought new makeup, clothes. and planned lots of coffee dates with friends and a holiday with my daughter. I also took on more responsibility with volunteering at my church. I wanted to look and feel good about myself all the time. And not get too focused on or disappointed if the husband hunting didn’t go to plan. 
   2. I made a list of qualities I wanted in a husband and I set my standards high. I had dated some not so great members of society so wanted to make sure I didn’t make the same mistakes again. I had everything from liking camping, to Salary, personality types, and to be tall and into fitness! It wasn’t a vanity exercise,  it was to make sure I met someone I would be very compatible with. 
   3. I wrote my profile with a friend she helped me and made sure I came across well. I was honest about my expectations and the reason I joined the dating website. I wanted to settle down and find a husband. And I didn’t want to mess around or have fun. 
   4. I out photos of me doing fun things! If recently had a photo shoot for my business so included these professional photos. I wanted to present  myself in the best possible light. 
   5. I replied to all my messages within an hour or sooner. I wanted to make sure I didn’t miss a message or waste anyones time. 
   6. I practised meeting up with a few guys straight away from the dating sites just for coffee just to test out meeting strangers. When you think about it, it’s a very odd concept. Meeting up with someone you don’t know. And  I was very nervous so wanted to make sure I could do it without ruining it. So I stepped out of my comfort zone and just went for it. And suggested meeting up with people very quickly. 
   7. I asked to chat to people on the phone after. A few messages. I felt you can get to know people better during a phone call. Rather than millions of messages back and forth. 
   8. I met up with anyone who fit my criteria even if they weren’t 100% perfect. You have to be very open to stepping out of your comfort zone. You just never know what might happen. 
   9. I met my husband after just a couple of weeks but had messaged dozens of people. And I kept messaging them even after meeting my husband for a coffee. You shouldn’t put all your eggs in one basket. You never know if the person you are talking to might be meeting up with someone else. 
   10. I removed my profile as soon as my husband asked me to start dating him exclusively. I didn’t want to mess anyone else around. 
   11. I had a list of questions written out for my dates so I had something to talk about, and it made the dates more interesting. 
   12. I found out their intentions for dating very early on and a timeline so I knew whether we were on the same page. I don’t have time for time wasters